And that’s exactly what you get with a 19 year old: inexperience.
“Which, cool if you’re not into it, but if you actually have to ask what else there is to the ‘What are you into?’ question, you’re probably waaaay too inexperienced for me to really enjoy myself. The other day this cute 22 year old was hitting me up – usually way too young for me but hella adorable – and I asked what all he was into and he’s like ‘I’m a top’ and I’m like, ‘Anything else?’ and he says, ‘What else is there?’ “Past the stigma of feeling like you’re creeping on a child, there’s just a lot to have to deal with when someone’s young. I’m pretty sure we all feel like a pedophile if we even look too long at someone who’s under 24. Granted, we’re all in our 30s (and one or two are 40-41), but yeah. And frankly, I’m quite certain most of my top-only friends would agree, 19 is way too young. However, when another commenter countered his comment with: “Not to be crass but the fact that he’s 19 will just add to the reasons why tops would love him”, SandyDelights doubled down on the comment by saying: “Not necessarily. But you’re 19, really new to gay adult life, and probably havent made the connections to the people you really want to fuck. There are huge muscle tops that would be more than willing to powerfuck you. Your problem is you’re a big guy and you’re only 19. I’m on the masc side and I have no issue getting fucked. TheMagicBola said, “Your problem isn’t being a masc bottom. Then there were those who offered some pertinent insight on his situation. Y’all look like kids now, even though I felt like a total adult then too. (As someone in his late 20s, I guarantee you that you don’t look like you’re in your late 20s. Instead trust you will make a lucky guy very happy down the line just as you are.
But those stereotypes are tired and as you get a bit older, you’ll notice your peers don’t trust in them so blindly. People might stereotype you as a top based on your melanin, build, and demeanor. There’s loads of men attracted to beefy, masculine, and handsome bottoms. Give your peers a little time to sort themselves. At least speaking for myself, at 19 sexual power-play went well over my head.
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A lot of gays are still virgins at 19, still figuring out their sexuality at 19, and/or still figuring out how to adult at 19. Gres06 gushed: “You are like my dream guy!” Some others encouraged the Redditor, like sitdownandtalktohim, who said: “Dude…Post pics on Grindr, let the muscle see your muscle and they come to you?”
Taytrtots added: “6 foot muscle btm with the opposite issue ? love a guy to throw me around but only seem to attract twink btms.” I have been throwing myself at the gym all year to try and at least look a little bit more “toppy” I guess. Princeofsnark said, “I’m a 5’5″ twink who hates being thrown around and prefers to top. The commenters came out in droves, with some identifying with his struggle.
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Plus I’m black, so everybody thinks I’m a top as well.” All of my hookups have called me a big dude in a good way, but it seems like it isn’t the dream. I’ve been told I’m handsome and all of that, but all guys want is the lightweight twink they can throw around. I’m not opposed to topping, but I only like to top guys that I know will be around for a while (like an FWB or a romantic interest). I’m also a complete submissive bitch, but most guys don’t expect that out of me. “I’m 19, but I’m beefy as hell, so most people think I’m in my late 20s. “I’m the big black muscle guy that looks like a top,” he writes on Reddit. One guy says he has a problem keeping men’s attention as a black, “extremely masc” bottom because he doesn’t conform to perceptions of what bottoms should look and act like.